Every person who is in a relationship may feel a decrease in libido or sexual drive once in a while. The reasons can vary from the physical to the psychological, and it takes a bit of time to figure out what is marring your interest in sex, that primordial activity that is so natural in all human beings, whatever may be their orientation. The methods below are intended to address the issue on an overall scale, and it is likely that you will find a bit or more, which is relatable and really helpful in your particular case.
Include certain fruits in your diet: Evidence indicates that certain kinds of food may increase libido. You can try certain fruits, like bananas, avocado or figs to give your libido a boost, as these foods are known as aphrodisiacs. Also, these fruits give you a lot of very essential vitamins and minerals that overall help to increase the flow of blood to the genital region, and help you with your erection. Needless to say, your sex life improves as a result.
Try having chocolate: History is testament to the fact that chocolate is seen as a symbol of desire. Not only does it taste delicious, but it also improves the pleasure you derive from sex. Chocolate enhances production of phenylethylamine and serotonin in the body which are mood boosting natural chemicals. It also has a positive psychological effect on the overall temperament of the individual consuming it.
Intake of herbs: Herbs like garlic and basil are conducive to sense stimulation. Adding them to the diet help those who struggle with erectile dysfunction. Basil tantalizes the sense organs, giving you heightened awareness. Garlic is rich in allicin, and this chemical increases blood flow to the genitals. Also, if you can get your hands on the extract of the leaf of the Chinese Gingko tree, it helps with antidepressant induced sexual repression or dysfunction.
The African touch: Yohimbine is an alkaloid which is found to work as a natural Viagra, and the Yohimbine bark helps to maintain an erection for a longer period of time. Although not as strong and effective as a Viagra pill, it does have its uses.
Give your self-confidence a boost: How you feel about your body has a vast effect on how you fell and experience sexual encounters. If you have an unhealthy diet and do not exercise, you will naturally have a poor self-image. This can be a mental impediment to the act of enjoying sexual union. You have to try to shift your internal focus from your flaws to your natural attributes, and enforce them with self- made mantras to help you enjoy sex with your partner.
One glass of wine: Studies have shown that not two but one glass of wine is enough to put you at ease with yourself and also increase the interest you have in sex. However be warned that too much alcohol will negatively affect the ability you have to perform in bed and may also cause erectile dysfunction. Also, too much alcohol will impair orgasm, which is what you really want out of the sexual act. This goes for both men and women.
Meditation: Even if you are in peak physical condition, if you have too much stress on your mind, your sex drive will be affected. Women are especially prone to having stress affect their sex life. Men, conversely, use sex as a tool to relieve stress. And here, the differences in the approach to sex will potentially cause a rift in relations. Use meditation as a means of calming the body down and alleviating stress.
Right amount of sleep: Hectic lifestyles take their toll on the body with reduced sleeping hours and this has a damaging effect on sex life. Being busy all the time makes it quite difficult to focus on sex, which is a healthy component of a relationship. Ensure that you get adequate sleep, at least 8 hours on average per day.
Reinforce the relationship: It is very important to talk about the way your relationship is headed with your partner. Sometimes a lot of misunderstandings can be ironed out after a good, no holds barred, open discussion. Use spare time to your advantage in spicing up the bond you share with your partner, and you will find that your sex life gets better proportionally.
Consult a relationship expert: If all else fails, visit a good relationship counselor with your better half to see if a third person perspective and opinion can throw some positive light on the situation and resolve any deadlock the two of you may be facing.
These tips are quite helpful in getting your sex life back on track and you should definitely try them with a positive frame of mind. Give it time, and your sexual health will bloom.